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Dementia Professional Help

Gob-Smacked And Out of Breath

Every time I work with a person living with dementia, I bring a little piece of Kenneth with me. He taught me the importance of the right physical approach. I bring a little slice of Verna with me, who taught me people living with dementia pick up on our energy and mirror it back […]

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    “Why Can’t I Give Myself Permission To Take A Day Off?”

“Why Can’t I Give Myself Permission To Take A Day Off?”

In the course of answering the question, “How do I know when it’s time for memory care?” I advise clients to write down whatever their “deal-breaker” (Incontinence? Wandering? Up all night?) is so they can refer back to it later when they’re moving forward with placement.

Why? Because moving forward with placement is when the […]

What Professionals Wish Families Knew

Note: Although the individuals in this picture are some of the finest professionals I’ve ever had the pleasure of working with, this in no way implies they are quoted in this article. Still, if you’re in the Fresno area and have the opportunity to work with them, seize it!

I emailed 17 colleagues in various […]

What Families Wish Professionals Knew

I asked my newsletter readers to “tell me the one thing you seriously wish professionals knew–something that would make your loved one’s life better (or yours), or make it easier for you to deal with us [professionals].”

Having been on both sides (angry family member blasting professional; professional being blasted), I’ve long suspected the […]

Dahlias, Dementia, & A Double-Dog Dare

At the end of May, I decided I was going to boldly try something I’d never tried before: grow flowers. I chose dahlias because I liked the picture on the package.

How hard could it be, right?

Two long weeks later, I finally got this result:

Enlarged so you can see what I’m talking about
Not exactly what […]

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    Dementia & A Doctor Appointment: 10 Ideas To Help Make It Happen

Dementia & A Doctor Appointment: 10 Ideas To Help Make It Happen

*Prefer video and some added explanation? Watch Part 1 and Part 2*
Getting a person living with dementia to see a doctor can quickly turn into a major source of conflict. Rather than going down that no-win path, consider just making the appointment and then incorporating these ideas:

Have a plan for appointment day. Work your […]

The Right Now Plan

If you suspect your parent has dementia, or you just found out your parent has dementia, the main thing is knowing what to do right now. See the infographic for the bare bones, and read below for more detail.

 

Ensure Safety. What’s your parent’s answer to “What would you do if there’s a fire?” or […]

Knowing What To Do: The 30,000 Foot View

Loving someone who’s living with dementia is one of the scariest, most nerve-wracking, frustrating, painful things you’ll ever go through in your life. Everyone wants to get it right; one of the most frequently asked questions I get is “What do I do now?” 

My ideas for the big picture are below; over the next […]

This Makes Me Want To SCREAM!

Have you heard this one? Mom lives in a care community, and every time Mom’s approached for care, she screams and strikes out. Because Mom is so uncooperative with care, caregivers use restraints. Additionally, the care community is requesting the family hire private caregivers.
I wish I could say this is a really bad joke. […]

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    Moving Your Parent Into Memory Care: Insider Tips from A Former Memory Care Director

Moving Your Parent Into Memory Care: Insider Tips from A Former Memory Care Director

Last week, I shared How To Know When It’s Time For Memory Care: 4 Things To Consider. This week, I discuss what happens when you’ve made the decision to do it.  Note: The video below discusses this week’s and last week’s blogs.

 
What To Expect: Emotionally
A tsunami of emotion. Making the move is one of […]