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Dementia Perceptions

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    Is Showering More Popular with Cats, or People Living with Dementia?

Is Showering More Popular with Cats, or People Living with Dementia?

Ever seen those YouTube videos or memes of people giving their cat a bath? This is the Google search result:

Notice a theme?

Just to clear up any confusion, cats love bathing more than people living with dementia do. By a lot. Most any care partner who’s ever been the in position of trying to […]

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    7 Ways To Be A Great Dementia Care Partner According To Trailblazers

7 Ways To Be A Great Dementia Care Partner According To Trailblazers

This was originally published 8-3-2016 on Sixty+Me.com.

I did my first “research” paper in 2nd grade. I chose Harriet Tubman. When I learned what one woman could accomplish against unbelievable odds, I was hooked. I devoured stories of female trailblazers, marveling at Marie Curie, Elizabeth Cady Stanton, and Dr Elizabeth Blackwell. Rosa Parks, Amelia Earhart, […]

More Patience? Yes, Please! (8 Ways To Get Some)

My mom is a natural greenthumb; I’m more the plant hospice lady. But I recently decided to give gardening a try anyway. Turns out with patience and persistence, I actually saw some results! I don’t know how it’ll ultimately turn out, but I know I’ve made more progress than before I even tried.
It’s the […]

Knowing What To Do: The 30,000 Foot View

Loving someone who’s living with dementia is one of the scariest, most nerve-wracking, frustrating, painful things you’ll ever go through in your life. Everyone wants to get it right; one of the most frequently asked questions I get is “What do I do now?” 

My ideas for the big picture are below; over the next […]

What’s “Normal”?

Two weeks ago, I asked my newsletter subscribers to tell me what they wanted to know. Turns out this is a MUCH better approach than guessing, especially since I was rarely guessing correctly! (You can still–quickly & anonymously–add your opinion.)

 

In addition to wondering what to expect, readers would love to know what’s normal (and […]

This Makes Me Want To SCREAM!

Have you heard this one? Mom lives in a care community, and every time Mom’s approached for care, she screams and strikes out. Because Mom is so uncooperative with care, caregivers use restraints. Additionally, the care community is requesting the family hire private caregivers.
I wish I could say this is a really bad joke. […]

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    Dementia + Communication: 7 Ways To Knock It Out of The Park

Dementia + Communication: 7 Ways To Knock It Out of The Park

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Many people are under the mistaken impression that once someone living with dementia reaches a certain point in the disease process, communication is impossible.
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Happily, that’s not true. However, effective communication does require thinking about (and doing) it differently.

Here are 7 ways to help you knock it out of the park every time:

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Lessons From Grandma Anna

This week, we’ll mark eight years since my grandma Anna died of Alzheimer’s disease after a 19-year battle. She was the first person living with dementia I (as an adult) I spent time with.

Anna is the reason I have a passion for figuring out what’s happening for a person living with dementia, how to […]

Why Arguing Doesn’t Work (And Yet We Keep Doing It)

Using reason and logic is not a winning way to persuade people living with dementia. Why? Because their brains are under attack. The attack actually prevents them from using reason and logic.

That may seem obvious to some, but it’s the big elephant in the room we often miss on this topic. Google “how to […]

Have You Planned for These Issues?

This week is Part 2 of the “top 10” questions/issues that care partners are urged to focus on to the exclusion of all else. I addressed #1-5 last week in Do You Know The (Right) Answers To These Questions? (but stand by my belief that the  #1 key to providing amazingly awesome care for […]