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Dementia Behavior

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    Is Showering More Popular with Cats, or People Living with Dementia?

Is Showering More Popular with Cats, or People Living with Dementia?

Ever seen those YouTube videos or memes of people giving their cat a bath? This is the Google search result:

Notice a theme?

Just to clear up any confusion, cats love bathing more than people living with dementia do. By a lot. Most any care partner who’s ever been the in position of trying to […]

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    7 Ways To Be A Great Dementia Care Partner According To Trailblazers

7 Ways To Be A Great Dementia Care Partner According To Trailblazers

This was originally published 8-3-2016 on Sixty+Me.com.

I did my first “research” paper in 2nd grade. I chose Harriet Tubman. When I learned what one woman could accomplish against unbelievable odds, I was hooked. I devoured stories of female trailblazers, marveling at Marie Curie, Elizabeth Cady Stanton, and Dr Elizabeth Blackwell. Rosa Parks, Amelia Earhart, […]

Are YOU Making Things Worse?

Is that even possible? How could YOU possibly be making anything worse, when you’re running your buns off to make life better? You’re the primary care partner, the chef, the housekeeper, the gardener, the chauffeur. Julie on the Love Boat *wishes* she had your mad skills, right?

But are you also the primary care partner […]

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    How To Deal with Tough Questions (And NOT Make It Worse!): Embracing Therapeutic Fiblets

How To Deal with Tough Questions (And NOT Make It Worse!): Embracing Therapeutic Fiblets

What do you do when Mom calls to say she’s at (long-deceased) Grandma’s and is wondering where Dad [also gone] is? What’s the communication strategy in that situation? Knowing to approach from the front is great; breaking a task into short, concise instructions is helpful– but what does any of that have to do […]

More Patience? Yes, Please! (8 Ways To Get Some)

My mom is a natural greenthumb; I’m more the plant hospice lady. But I recently decided to give gardening a try anyway. Turns out with patience and persistence, I actually saw some results! I don’t know how it’ll ultimately turn out, but I know I’ve made more progress than before I even tried.
It’s the […]

This Makes Me Want To SCREAM!

Have you heard this one? Mom lives in a care community, and every time Mom’s approached for care, she screams and strikes out. Because Mom is so uncooperative with care, caregivers use restraints. Additionally, the care community is requesting the family hire private caregivers.
I wish I could say this is a really bad joke. […]

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    Dementia + Communication: 7 Ways To Knock It Out of The Park

Dementia + Communication: 7 Ways To Knock It Out of The Park

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Many people are under the mistaken impression that once someone living with dementia reaches a certain point in the disease process, communication is impossible.
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Happily, that’s not true. However, effective communication does require thinking about (and doing) it differently.

Here are 7 ways to help you knock it out of the park every time:

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Lessons From Grandma Anna

This week, we’ll mark eight years since my grandma Anna died of Alzheimer’s disease after a 19-year battle. She was the first person living with dementia I (as an adult) I spent time with.

Anna is the reason I have a passion for figuring out what’s happening for a person living with dementia, how to […]

Why Arguing Doesn’t Work (And Yet We Keep Doing It)

Using reason and logic is not a winning way to persuade people living with dementia. Why? Because their brains are under attack. The attack actually prevents them from using reason and logic.

That may seem obvious to some, but it’s the big elephant in the room we often miss on this topic. Google “how to […]

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    The #1 Key to Providing Amazingly Awesome Care for A Person Living with Dementia

The #1 Key to Providing Amazingly Awesome Care for A Person Living with Dementia

If you care for a person living with dementia, you’ve probably been focusing on (or been urged to focus on) the following issues:

What stage are they in?
Who’s the best doctor?
When’s the right time for placement?
Where’s the right place for placement?
Who’s best to get their affairs in order: attorney, financial […]