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    Is Showering More Popular with Cats, or People Living with Dementia?

Is Showering More Popular with Cats, or People Living with Dementia?

Ever seen those YouTube videos or memes of people giving their cat a bath? This is the Google search result:

Notice a theme?

Just to clear up any confusion, cats love bathing more than people living with dementia do. By a lot. Most any care partner who’s ever been the in position of trying to […]

Gob-Smacked And Out of Breath

Every time I work with a person living with dementia, I bring a little piece of Kenneth with me. He taught me the importance of the right physical approach. I bring a little slice of Verna with me, who taught me people living with dementia pick up on our energy and mirror it back […]

Dahlia Slideshow

You may be unable to get out much any more. You may be stressed out. You may just like to have something you can share with you parent or partner.

Whatever the case, know that I’m here for you, I’m rooting for you, and you’re always welcome to reach out!

Meanwhile, here’s how to enjoy the show:

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More Entries on A Road Map

When I write about my experiences working with 1,100 people living with dementia and their families, I think of it as “a way to somehow make sense of what can often feel inexplicable,” I recently told my blog readers.

“It’s a way to try to construct a road map for you. A way of saying, […]

One Year Later, A Few Markers On The Roadmap

I usually try to share something that would be helpful to you in my blog posts. Something about communication, behavior management, planning ahead, making the decision to move to memory care, medications, what have you.

For me, sifting through experiences is a way to somehow make sense of what can often feel inexplicable. It’s a […]

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    “Why Can’t I Give Myself Permission To Take A Day Off?”

“Why Can’t I Give Myself Permission To Take A Day Off?”

In the course of answering the question, “How do I know when it’s time for memory care?” I advise clients to write down whatever their “deal-breaker” (Incontinence? Wandering? Up all night?) is so they can refer back to it later when they’re moving forward with placement.

Why? Because moving forward with placement is when the […]

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    7 Ways To Be A Great Dementia Care Partner According To Trailblazers

7 Ways To Be A Great Dementia Care Partner According To Trailblazers

This was originally published 8-3-2016 on Sixty+Me.com.

I did my first “research” paper in 2nd grade. I chose Harriet Tubman. When I learned what one woman could accomplish against unbelievable odds, I was hooked. I devoured stories of female trailblazers, marveling at Marie Curie, Elizabeth Cady Stanton, and Dr Elizabeth Blackwell. Rosa Parks, Amelia Earhart, […]

What Professionals Wish Families Knew

Note: Although the individuals in this picture are some of the finest professionals I’ve ever had the pleasure of working with, this in no way implies they are quoted in this article. Still, if you’re in the Fresno area and have the opportunity to work with them, seize it!

I emailed 17 colleagues in various […]

What Families Wish Professionals Knew

I asked my newsletter readers to “tell me the one thing you seriously wish professionals knew–something that would make your loved one’s life better (or yours), or make it easier for you to deal with us [professionals].”

Having been on both sides (angry family member blasting professional; professional being blasted), I’ve long suspected the […]

Brain-Friendly Recipes From A Pro

I was talking to my friend Susan the other day about some of the challenges that happen with food and nutrition when a person is living with dementia. It’s hard to get out of bed in the morning; it just seems like energy is at a low ebb.

Utensils can become difficult to use […]